Dan is a Seattle lawyer who deals with screaming people. . . in litigation, in road rage, in any time and place. Here he reveals his personal method for not taking it personally.

GUEST COLUMN: DANIEL D. WOO — When my own mind is in turmoil, or when another person is literally screaming at me, I wonder: “What is the source of this emotional tsunami?”

Over the years I have learned that “screaming,” and “at me,” are concepts — not empirical reflections of reality. Just look at the video here.

These thought-forms in my mind are “conclusions” that reflect my projections about reality. The feeling that someone is “screaming” changes, completely, when I recognize that the person in front of, or within me, is suffering.

In this process I begin to taste patience and acceptance. On too many occasions in the past, I have been ignorant of skills in relating and responding in present time in “screaming” scenarios. But those work-a-day shockers invite me to discovery: the skillful means of mind and action can be cultivated through daily practice with everyone — friends, family, clients, acquaintances and strangers.

When we accept things as they are, right now and here, our hearts comprehend that we are complete and perfect in this moment. When we forgive what we think we are, we understand that incompleteness is perfection. Neither do we have to escape nor fight.

Time ceases. We return to a natural state of spaciousness, and from such, our intuition will guide us for the right response — whether of action or restraint, with what is within or before us. This is the moment of liberation — acceptance and patience. Happiness and joy will follow.

Please visit Soul’s Code to read the rest of Dan’s article.

http://www.soulscode.com/screaming-at-me-my-buddhist-comeback/